If A Divorce Seems Likely, Here Are 10 Things You Should Do Right Now

If A Divorce Seems Likely, Here Are 10 Things You Should Do Right Now

Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult things that people go through in life. Nearly every single thing in your life is going to change, and it can leave you floundering for what to do and what steps to take next. If you're convinced that your marriage is beyond repair and you're on the road to divorce, these are ten measures you can take to get ready for the process.

Put your kids as your top priority

During the divorce process, it is important to maintain your children's routines as consistently as possible. If you and your spouse can't co-parent with the kids without bickering, establish separate times for each of you to be with the youngsters.

Continue to participate (or get involved) in your children's school, sports, and social activities. Do not criticize your spouse in front of your children. Put the needs of your children before everything else in your life. Additionally, when determining custody of your children a Judge is likely to look at the past in order to determine what to do in the future.

Copy documents

Lawsuit (even suits for divorce) are fueled by information as much as money. Knowing pertinent information is crucial to a successful presentation of your case in Court. Often times, that information comes from documents, so making copies of those documents is extremely important.

Make copies of everything you can find in your house, including tax returns, bank statements, check registers, investment statements, retirement account statements, employee benefits handbooks, life insurance policies (if any), mortgage documents (mortgage and deed), and financial statements.

If your spouse is self-employed, you'll need to get a detailed handle on the company's financial status. Make duplicate copies of any financial information saved on your home computer.

Create a Household Inventory

Things tend to go missing during divorces. Especially items with sentimental significance. Additionally, it's not uncommon for items to be sold, pawned, or given away by spouses for a variety of reasons.

List the key objects and their price tags: furniture, art, jewelry, appliances, and automobiles are just a few examples. Make sure your house's storage areas and your safe deposit box for valuables aren't being overlooked. Taking pictures of areas in your home with your cell phone can help you with your inventory.

However, if you are in a similar situation and your spouse has assets that may be divided to help you move on independently, it is important to know exactly what they are so that the process goes as smoothly as possible. (Being aware of all marital assets when dividing property is essential.)

Know Your Household Expenses

A budget is a good practice regardless of whether you're going through a divorce or not. However, it can be essential to understanding exactly what your financial independence will require, especially if you're not the one in your household that handles the bills.

To figure out what you spent money on, look at your bank statements for the past year and keep track of each utility, mortgage, and other household expenditure for each month. Keep an eye on how much cash you spend every day so that you can also calculate your monthly expenditures.

Manage Debt

Before divorce, it may be worth considering paying off the family debt. The division of marital debt among divorcing spouses is one of the most difficult topics to negotiate.

Determining the source of debt after marriage is a good time to take stock of your debts. Determine whether any debt was incurred by one spouse or the other before the date of marriage, which would be referred to as "separate debt."

Know What Your Spouse Earns

If your spouse receives a regular pay, it's simple to look at a payroll document; if your spouse is self-employed or runs a company, try to keep track of the money coming in for several months.

Assess Your Earning Power

Perhaps you've been out of the workforce for a while and have been focusing on raising your children. Examine your present employability and whether furthering your education before splitting up would be beneficial in the long run.

Know your Credit History

If you don't already have credit cards in your own name, apply for them now and start using them. If you have a bad credit history, try to pay off your bills on time and improve your credit score before divorce.

Financial Independence

You should always have your own cash on hand. If your spouse leaves home and stops paying bills, you'll be responsible for paying them until definitive support orders can be filed and obtained from a judge. If you're going to file for divorce, you'll need a retainer to hire an attorney. Make preparations to begin divorce procedures as soon as possible after accumulating your own nest egg.

Talk with an attorney

Learn about your legal rights and responsibilities so you are aware of what you need to do. Assume that after the divorce, you choose to stay at home with your children until the finalization date approaches. Even briefly residing at your parents' house may be a big mistake from a legal standpoint.

As you can see, there are many different things to consider before filing suit for divorce in the State of Texas.

If you have any questions regarding divorce, division of marital property or other family law issues, please feel free to call us at 713-999-9398, email us at jmoon@moonlawfirm.com or come by the office at 1111 Fairmont Parkway, Pasadena, Texas 77504. I look forward to hearing from you and working with you on your case.

Contempt In A Family Law Case

This week I’m continuing a series of posts regarding the potential remedies one might have if they find themselves in a situation where the other parent of their child refuses to abide by a current court order. This week’s post will be on enforcement by contempt. (As usual, this post is not intended to be a substitute for legal advice. Your situation is unique and requires individualized legal advice. Please contact an attorney to discuss your case. This article is intended to be general information on the subject.)

It’s a phrase that’s familiar to anyone who has ever watched any type of courtroom drama, “I hold you in contempt!” In the broadest sense contempt simply means that you are not following the direction or order of the court. What does this phrase really mean in the context of a family law case?

A court may enforce by contempt a final order for possession of and access to a child. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.001(a), (b). The court has the authority to hold a person in contempt for failing to abide by the current orders in a family law case.  In order for a court to hold an individual in contempt, a motion for enforcement must be filed in the court of continuing, exclusive jurisdiction. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.001(d). The court of continuing, exclusive jurisdiction is usually the court that rendered and entered the order you are trying to enforce. 

Like most enforcement situations, my advice is to first check the underlying order to determine the exact nature of the violation and the provision of the order being violated. The underlying order sought to be enforced by contempt must set out the details of each obligation in clear, specific and unambiguous terms, and the order must not rest upon implication or conjecture or be uncertain or susceptible to different meanings. Ex parte Slavin, 412 S.W.2d 43 (Tex. 1967). If the order is vague or ambiguous, the order may be clarified so as to be enforceable by contempt, Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.421. The request for clarification may be made before a motion for contempt is filed, in conjunction with a motion for contempt, or after the denial of contempt. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.424.

Once the motion has been filed, the court must set the date, time, and place of the hearing and order the respondent to personally appear and respond to the motion. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.061(a). The other parent must also receive adequate notice of the date of the hearing. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.062(a), (b).

Assuming that you are successful in your request to have a court enforce an order by contempt, the court will issue an enforcement order. An enforcement order must include in ordinary and concise language the provisions of the order for which enforcement was requested, the acts or omissions that are the subject of the order, the manner of the respondent's noncompliance and the relief granted by the court. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.166(a).

The court may also impose incarceration or a fine for criminal contempt. If the order imposes such a penalty, an enforcement order must contain findings identifying the provisions of the order for which enforcement was requested and the date of each occasion when the respondent's failure to comply with the order was found to constitute criminal contempt. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.166(b). If the enforcement order imposes incarceration for civil contempt, the order must state the specific conditions on which the respondent may be released from confinement. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.166(c).

Contempt is a powerful tool at the disposal of anyone who is the victim of another party who is not following the orders of the court. In the context of a family law case, contempt is the likely remedy for all manner of violations of the court’s order. If you have any questions or comments regarding contempt or family law case, please feel free to contact us. 

Habeas Corpus Child Custody - Get Your Child Back

Family Law deals with a great number of difficult situations. Ending a marriage or a relationship where a child has been born can be of the most difficult. One of the main issues individuals will face is sharing their child with the other parent. Obviously, it is legally required and in the best interest of both parents and the children involved for everyone to abide by the current court order. However, what do you do if the other parent refuses to return your child? This article discusses one option of enforcement if the child has not been returned to the parent: Habeas Corpus.

1. Consult your Orders

The first step is to consult the most recent orders from the court on your case. The court orders establish the rights and duties of both parents regarding the child or children. The main determination to make is what time and date are you supposed to have your child according to the court order? If the order requires the return of the child on a specific time and date and the other parent does not comply, that parent is in violation of the court’s orders.

What happens if there is no court order governing right to possession of child? This would occur if there has been no prior litigation adjudicating the rights and duties of the parents regarding the child. If the right to possession of a child is not governed by an order, the court in a habeas corpus proceeding involving the right of possession of the child:

(1)   must compel return of the child to the parent if the right of possession is between a parent and a nonparent and a suit affecting the parent-child relationship has not been filed; or

(2)   may either compel return of the child or issue temporary orders if a suit affecting the parent-child relationship is pending and the parties have received notice of a hearing on temporary orders set for the same time as the habeas corpus proceeding.

Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.376(a); Rodriguez v. McFall, 658 S.W.2d 150 (Tex. 1983) (mother entitled to return of child from paternal grandparents); Whatley v. Bacon, 649 S.W.2d 297 (Tex. 1983) (surviving father entitled to habeas against maternal grandparents).

If the order provides that you have a right of possession, the first step should be to contact the other parent to try to resolve the issue without litigation. It’s always best if the parents can work together outside of the judicial system. This will avoid unnecessary costs as well as time away from family and work.

2. Consult your attorney

Let’s assume that you have consulted the orders and determined that you have the right of possession and the other parent has not returned the child. The next call you should make should be to your attorney. Your attorney can advise you what your next steps are and what pleadings to file in order to have your child returned to you. Keep in mind that this article is intended to provide general advice and that there might be (and probably is) facts specific to your situation that would require a different tactic than what is mentioned in this article. Always consult with a legal professional before going to court.

I always recommend that individuals contact an attorney as soon as possible because letting too much time expire might cause difficulties in asserting your rights. If the parent without the child has by consent or acquiescence relinquished actual possession and control of the child for six months or more preceding the date of the filing of the petition for the writ, the court may either compel or refuse to order return of the child. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 153.373(a). The court may disregard brief periods of possession and control by the relator during the six-month period. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 153.373(b).

As always, it is very important that you consult an attorney as soon as possible so that they can guide you and inform you of your rights and obligations.

3. Habeas Corpus

A writ of habeas corpus under Chapter 157 of the Texas Family Code is used by the parent with a legal right to possession of a child in an effort to regain possession from a person wrongfully retaining the child. The sole issue in almost all habeas corpus proceedings is whether the person who is claiming the right to the possession of the child is currently entitled to possession of a child by virtue of a valid court order. This is the reason you will want to consult your most recent orders to determine who has the right of possession.

The parent entitled to possession may file a petition for a writ of habeas corpus in either the court of continuing, exclusive jurisdiction (the court that issued the most recent orders in most cases) or in a court with jurisdiction to issue a writ of habeas corpus in the county in which the child is found. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.371(a). Ex parte Jabara, 556 S.W.2d 592 (Tex. Civ. App.—Dallas 1977, no writ).

Although a habeas corpus proceeding is not a Suit Affecting the Parent Child Relationship (known as a SAPCR), the court may refer to the provisions in the Family Code under Title 5 for definitions and procedures as appropriate. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. §§ 101.001 et seq., 157.371(b).

Subject to the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act and the Parental Kidnaping Prevention Act, 28 U.S.C.A. § 1738A, if the right to possession of a child is governed by a court order, the court in a habeas corpus proceeding involving the right to possession of the child must compel return of the child to the parent with the right to possession only if the court finds that parent is entitled to possession under the order. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.372(a); Strobel v. Thurman, 565 S.W.2d 238 (Tex. 1978) (the granting of a writ of habeas corpus “should be automatic, immediate, and ministerial … upon proof of the bare legal right to possession.”); In re Lau, 89 S.W.3d 757 (Tex. App.—Houston [1st Dist.] 2002, no pet.) (habeas must be granted in absence of written finding of serious immediate question regarding child's welfare).

In a suit in which the court does not compel return of the child, the court may issue temporary orders if a SAPCR is pending and the parties have received notice of a hearing on temporary orders set for the same time as the habeas corpus proceeding. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.373(c). Notwithstanding any other provision of law, the court may render an appropriate temporary order if there is a serious immediate question concerning the welfare of the child. Tex. Fam. Code Ann. § 157.374; In re Lau, 89 S.W.3d 757 (Tex. App.—Houston [1st Dist.] 2002, no pet.) (habeas corpus petition must be granted in absence of written finding of serious immediate question concerning child's welfare).

A Habeas Corpus proceeding is a powerful tool the be used by a parent whose child has been wrongfully kept from them. In another article I will discuss other method of enforcement of court orders. As always, please contact The Moon Law Firm if you have any questions or comments regarding Texas Family Law. I look forward to working with you.

Family Law Handbook

Attached to this blog post is a ​basic outline of what to expect during a family lawsuit. It answers most general questions but don't hesitate to ask me a more specific question if you have one. I look forward to hearing from you. 

​Click Here